The wedding app for the whole room.

The questions guests ask, in order

Work a hundred receptions and the same questions arrive in the same order every time. A guest app is worth having if it answers them, and worth skipping if it does not.

1. Where do I sit? Asked most often, by the most people, usually while holding a drink and blocking a doorway.
2. What time does the ceremony actually start? The invitation said one thing four months ago and they cannot find the invitation.
3. Where do I park, and what do I wear? Asked in the days before, usually to the couple, usually at 11pm.
4. What is happening next? Asked all evening. Guests do not want to miss the speeches or the cake, and they cannot tell whether they have time to step outside.
5. How do I send you this photo? Asked afterwards, and then never followed through.

Everything else a wedding app does is a bonus. If it does not answer these five, it is a product for the couple wearing a guest’s clothes.

Why the download is the whole problem

A guest app only works if guests use it, and the install is where they stop. Finding the right app, waiting on venue wifi, making an account, verifying an email, remembering a password. Each step sheds people, and the people it sheds first are the older guests whose photos and presence you most wanted.

Scanning a QR code is a single gesture with no account at the end of it. That is the difference between an app most of the room uses and an app your two most enthusiastic cousins use.

There is more on this on the no-download page.

What guests can actually do during the reception

Answering questions is the floor. The reason to put a wedding app in front of guests at all is that a reception has long, strange gaps in it: between the ceremony and the entrance, between courses, during the photos, in the half hour before the floor fills up.

• The photo wall. Guests upload what they shot and see it land live. This is the one that changes the room, because it turns their phones from a distraction into a contribution. See the photo wall page.
• Song requests. Straight to the DJ booth, approved or declined without the room knowing. See song requests.
• Couple trivia and madlibs. A live game on the big screen answered from every phone. See reception games.
• The guestbook. A note typed at the table beats a queue at a book nobody wants to stand in.
• The live feed. Photos, songs and moments as they happen, so a guest who stepped out knows what they missed.

The part most couples underestimate

A guest app quietly removes work from the couple, and that is its real value.

Every question a guest can answer on their own phone is a question that does not arrive as a text message the week of the wedding, or as a tap on the shoulder while you are being photographed. Seating alone accounts for a startling share of the interruptions at a reception, and a searchable seating chart deletes almost all of it.

The phrase we use for this is being a guest at your own wedding. It is not a slogan about relaxation. It is about the specific and avoidable work of being the only two people in the room who know how the evening is supposed to go.

What is in which plan

We Do is one app rather than several, so guests scan one code for everything. What that code opens depends on the plan.

• Silver, $79.99. Wedding details, the day-of schedule, RSVPs and the guestbook.
• Gold, $99.99. Adds the seating chart, the photo wall, the live feed, the budget planner and vendors.
• Diamond, $129.99. Adds song requests, trivia and madlibs, the photo slideshow for a TV, video uploads and the DJ and photographer portals.

Each is a one time payment for your wedding, not a subscription. You can build the whole thing for free first and pay only when you are ready to invite real guests.

Common questions